Men feel the pressures of society just as much as women. Through my internet searches I have come across nothing that encourages body positivity in men. This needs to change.
Please, tell me of the struggles this dude faces as a white male. I’m really interested in hearing about the alternate reality that he inhabits.
WHAT A DUMBASS POST
CRY HARDER WHITE BOY
Booohooooo who says all girls wanna look like barbie dipshit
Whoa, whoa, whoa. Are you guys honestly saying that just because he’s a man and white? Are you fucking kidding me? You all do realize you’re technically saying right? You’re pretty much saying that that this guy has no right to be sad because there are people out there who have it worst. I thought that was one of the main things you never tell a person with depression, so why are any of you saying that here?
Seriously, what world do you guys live in? What if a white man abused as a child? What if they were told that they were not good enough by their family and and people around him? Do you think every white guy lives a life where everybody loves them, nobody thinks their ugly and they get everything they want by simply asking for it once? You have to be a fool to believe that.
Are you trying to tell me that a white person can’t be depressed because he is “privilege over everybody else”? Let me put it to you like this: Let’s say you have a white man loses his job, is insecure about his body (because maybe he’s not very tall or muscular, which is what society today a man should look like), and has no friends. Now let’s say you have a successful black business woman who is paid well, has a great social life, but also has depression. Which one of these two people has more right to be depressed? The answer: NEITHER!!!! Because depression is not always about how successful you are life or what you have in life. Depression is feeling that you’re not a good enough person no matter who you are and how hard you try.
All you that contributed to the above commentary should be ashamed of yourselves. There are people out there, include white boys, who hate themselves because of their looks. They will self harm just like anybody else with self hate issues, but none of you care. All you care about is there gender and skin color. I’d hate to see what any of you would say if ever met a cutter that happened to be a white gut. What would you say when he shows you his scars? Will you laugh at his face? What if he told you that he attempted suicide? Would roll your eyes at him?
None of you are any better than those racist and sexist people you claim to hate so much. You don’t equality. You want anybody that shares physical similarities with the “oppressor” to feel like shit. You want people who to be looked down upon because of the there race and gender; two things they have no control over.How is that any better than someone belittling a black/hispanic/asian/etc person because of a broad and untrue generalization?
I’ve come to realize this important fact: Tumblr doesn’t the safe have for logical people that some many people want to claim it is. It’s full immature, hypocritical , and ignorant people just like any other website. I don’t care if I lose followers because of this. This has to stop.
I seriously hate it when people minimize the suffering of others for things such as skin color, or sex, or place of birth, etc. Yes, privilege exists, but no, it doesn’t mean everyone who has some level of privilege gets to live out a wonderful life. It means that, on average, they are less likely to feel as much pressure as someone on the outskirts of society, but it doesn’t really change that human suffering is still human suffering.
This is, literally, the only thing I hate about Tumblr: it’s full of people who basically lower themselves into the exact level of what it is they’re trying to fight. It’s really not nice at all, and it’s not productive in any way.
True story: the suffering of people isn’t an Olympic sport. “Congratulations! You’ve suffered more than everyone else! Here’s a gold medal! Now go out into the world and demean others who have less pressure or have suffered less than you have!” It doesn’t work that way. You don’t get to decry the suffering of others simply because you’ve suffered more; that’s missing the entire point. You especially don’t get to use the “Someone is suffering way more than you!” card if you’re posting on fucking Tumblr, because, guess what, having internet access is actually a hell of privilege on its own, because there are poverty stricken, hungry, ill people in the world who have not so much as access to clean drinking water.
Someone always has it worse than you do, and this why when someone has it better than you, but is still suffering, you should mindful of showing them kindness and respect for their suffering as well. Believe it or not, suffering is a human thing, and the most ethical and moral thing we can is not to play a racing game of who got the finish line faster, but to try our hardest to reduce human suffering for all.
And yes, women have dealt with a ton of shit throughout modern history; no one is denying this. But men deal with pressure too, because, believe it or not. Patriarchy is not only demeaning to women, it’s demeaning to men as well with the way it brainwashes our entire society. We currently live in a world that is becoming more and more obsessed with things like image, and so forth. Look back to the past hundred years and look at ads targeted at men then and look at them now, and imagine how boys grow up. Barbie is constantly slagged for the way she is proportioned (rightfully so), but action figures for boys have also changed through the years. Sure, it’s small peas compared to what women have had to deal with, and for how long women have had to put up with it, but by simply ignoring it and pretending like “other people have it worse” is any level of excuse to become detached - or worse, hostile - toward an increasingly growing problem is only going to come back and bite us in the ass a few generations from now. The logical thing is to change the way we treat both, men and women, and the pressures our society puts on each, however lopsided these pressures may be.
I will never tell someone that the pain they are feeling isn’t real, and I will never say that they don’t have the right to feel they way they do. I’m not negating the pressures society puts on people of different genders, cultures, religions, colors, etc.; however, socioculturally and historically speaking, it isn’t as hard to be Ken as it is to be Barbie. This isn’t an opinion, it’s a fact.